Sunday, January 13, 2019

Blonde woman who 'stuck out like a sore thumb' in her Frum community learns her real dad is a STRANGER

Dani Shapiro, seen here with Paul Shapiro, knew that she physically looked out of place among the mostly Eastern-European Ashkenazi Jews she grew up around

An author explores a strange and surprising story in a new book about her own heritage growing up as an Orthodox Jew only to find out her lineage was not at all what she was led to believe.
Dani Shapiro, 56, the author of Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love, always thought Wall Street stockbroker Paul Shapiro, who died in a car accident in 1986, had been her father until she took a DNA test in 2016.
'It upended my world,' said Shapiro in an interview with the New York Post
Her mother Irene had once told her she had received fertility help, which Shapiro uncovered happened at the Farris Institute for Parenthood in Philadelphia, long since closed.
Paul Shapiro's sperm was apparently mixed with an anonymous donation to inseminate Irene in a process called 'confused artificial insemination.'

'It was to protect the presumably fragile ego of the intended ­father because infertility was seen as a weakness,' Dani Shapiro said. 'The parents were told: 'Don't tell anyone, not even the doctor who delivers your child.'' 
Her eventual DNA results would reflect her mother's Jewish heritage, but also a background of French, Irish, English and German origins. 
Dani Shapiro says she 'stuck out like a sore thumb' in her community of mostly Eastern European Ashkenazi Jews, and was once grabbed by Rae Kushner, Holocaust survivor who would eventually become Jared Kushner's grandmother.
'We could have used you in the ghetto, little blondie,' Kushner told her at the time. 'You could have gotten us bread from the Nazis.' 
Shapiro did not know what to make of her conspicuous physical differences until she got tested with after her mother's death and looked deeper into her  own history.
With the help of her journalist husband, Shapiro would eventually track down the man who was her biological father. The father of three had donated sperm to the Farris Institute in 1961 when he had been a medical student.  
Since then they met in October of 2016 and have been introduced to each other's families, maintaining a relationship.
Throughout the experience, Shapiro still believes Paul Shapiro had been her real father, but she is still troubled how easily these secrets could have remained buried without modern technology and the fact that her parents are no longer here to say anything.
'The kits hung around the kitchen for weeks until we finally opened them,' she recalled about the DNA tests. 'That's how casual the whole thing was.' 


Anonymous said...

What's the purpose of her announcing to the world via the media and her book that she's a mamzer (mamzeres)? Good luck with getting her children and grandchildren married.

Anonymous said...

I'm confused. The 'non-father' went to the extreme of mixing his own sperm with that of a stranger's (the real father) in order to deceive himself and others that, on the offchance, he might or could be the biological father. The child is still Jewish because the mother is. But does no-one ever consider the thoughts and feelings of the child/adult should they finally discover their real biological father was an anonymous sperm donor. Why should children be 'manufactured' in this way to satisfy a man's ego.