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Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Black Christian a rising star of pro-Israel campus activism


Growing up in New Orleans, Chloe Valdary kept kosher, studied the Jewish Bible and celebrated Jewish holidays with festive meals. 

In recent years she has become an outspoken pro-Israel campus activist, contributing regularly to the Jewish press, and speaking and posting widely about the merits of the Jewish state on social media.

But the senior at the University of New Orleans is not Jewish. She is Christian — a member of the Intercontinental Church of God, whose adherents revere the Hebrew Bible and follow the Jewish calendar — and she is black.

In July, Valdary, 21, garnered widespread attention for a Tablet piece in which she accused pro-Palestinian activists of misappropriating the rhetoric of the black civil rights movement. 

In the piece, titled “To the Students for Justice in Palestine, a Letter From an Angry Black Woman,” Valdary addressed the campus group.

“You do not have the right to invoke my people’s struggle for your shoddy purposes, and you do not get to feign victimhood in our name,” she wrote.

Valdary also listed prominent black civil rights-era Zionists, telling Israel’s college-age critics, “You do not get to pretend as though you and Rosa Parks would have been great buddies in the 1960s. Rosa Parks was a real Freedom Fighter. Rosa Parks was a Zionist.” (Parks signed a 1975 letter by the Black Americans to Support Israel Committee, backing Israel’s right to exist.)

Her outspoken support for Israel in the name of civil rights not only cuts against the arguments of Students for Justice in Palestine and other critics of Israel, but also against the drift of much black civil rights rhetoric over the past few decades.

While a number of early civil rights leaders, including the Rev. Martin Luther King Jr., were supportive of Israel, subsequent black leaders — particularly starting with the black power movement in the late 1960s — often have been sharply critical of the Jewish state. 

Black power leader Stokely Carmichael described Israel as a “settler colony,” while more recently, professor and activist Cornel West endorsed the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions movement and called Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu a “war criminal.”

Against that backdrop, Valdary’s stance and identity make her a uniquely compelling voice in the world of Israel advocacy.
“Because so many prominent black leaders are hostile to Israel, it makes it even more powerful to have someone who’s black supporting Israel,” said Morton Klein, president of the Zionist Organization of America, a hardline Israel advocacy group.

Indeed, a number of pro-Israel organizations, including AIPAC and Christians United for Israel, have made concerted efforts in recent years to develop ties with African-American supporters.

According to recent public opinion surveys by Pew Research Center focused on the conflict in Gaza, black Americans have tended to be somewhat less sympathetic toward Israel (64 percent expressing “a lot” or “some” sympathy for Israel, versus 70 percent for whites), and somewhat more critical of its response to Hamas, with 36 percent saying Israel’s response had gone too far, compared to 22 percent of white Americans.

Valdary, who grew up attending grade school with a number of Jewish friends, said that despite their common religious practices, she didn’t feel a particular sense of personal connection to Jews. That changed in her freshman year of high school, when Valdary saw the 2007 film “Freedom Writers,” in which a high school teacher uses the Holocaust to teach her minority students about facing discrimination in their own lives.
Inspired by the movie, Valdary began to read voraciously about the Holocaust and Jewish history, as well as novels such as “Exodus” by Leon Uris and “The Town Beyond the Wall” by Elie Wiesel.

The themes raised in her reading, combined with hearing news about anti-Semitic incidents around the world, sparked Valdary’s passion for Zionism. “Exodus,” a fictional and highly sympathetic account of the founding of the State of Israel, was particularly influential.

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Chloe Valdary spent the summer in Boston working as a consultant for Camera. (Chris Keuhl)

“The importance of Jewish pride as a theme throughout the book really inspired me to take action and do something about the rising anti-Semitism,” Valdary told JTA.

Once she arrived at the University of New Orleans, Valdary threw herself into campus activity, both at her school and nearby Tulane University, which unlike UNO has a substantial Jewish population. 

Her work caught the attention of the Committee for Accuracy in Middle East Reporting in America, or Camera, which has funded Valdary’s own campus organization, Allies of Israel, at UNO.

One of her pro-Israel rallies at UNO also was noted by a coordinator for the American Israel Public Affairs Committee, which then sponsored her to come to an AIPAC policy conference and subsequently paid for her to take a 10-day trip to Israel — a trip Valdary described as “life changing.”

Since then, Valdary has worked with and spoken to a number of pro-Israel groups. She spent this summer in Boston employed as a paid consultant for Camera, which is still funding Allies for Israel, and will resume working for the group later this month.

Her mentor, Dumisani Washington, is a black minister who serves as the Diversity Outreach Coordinator for Christians United for Israel, an evangelical pro-Israel group led by Pastor John Hagee. 

Valdary also was a featured speaker at the ZOA’s national convention in March, and she has recorded videos for Americans for Peace and Tolerance, which was founded by conservative pro-Israel advocate Charles Jacobs.

But Valdary also has found a receptive audience beyond the more hardline groups. In August, she spoke at an event organized by The Alumni Community, a New York-area alumni group for Birthright Israel, which is less ideologically oriented. And not all of her fans consider themselves conservative.
“She’s a champion on campus of a Zionism that doesn’t apologize and also comes from a deep place of humanism,” said Rabbi Menachem Creditor of Congregation Netivot Shalom in Berkeley, Calif., who describes himself as a “progressive Zionist.” 

“Her rejection of the demonization of Israel is not based on being a talking head on the right or the left. It’s based on being a very articulate and thoughtful leader on campus.”

Although her views on Israel tend to be aligned with more right-leaning pro-Israel groups, Valdary maintains that her opinions are based on liberal ideals. She argues that Israel’s sovereignty over Arab citizens “speaks to the concept of indigenous people” — the Jewish people, according to Valdary — thus is a liberal value. 

This places her at odds with a number of Israel critics, as well as black leaders such as Carmichael and Angela Davis, who have argued that the Palestinians are indigenous while Jewish-Israelis are colonizing interlopers.

Valdary says that “Israeli society, like any other society, has issues with discrimination, but in terms of systematic discrimination, like apartheid in Africa or Jim Crow, that does not exist in Israeli society.” 

She says that she opposes a two-state solution, favoring a “Jewish one-state solution” in which all citizens in Israel and its territories can vote, but “the culture, the personality” of Israel is Jewish.

Valdary’s political views, and her invocation of civil rights history and rhetoric in the cause of Zionism, has made her a controversial figure and a lightning rod for criticism. Some of the criticism has been racially derogatory, as when blogger Richard Silverstein posted an article of Valdary’s on Facebook with the note, “They finally did it: found a Negro Zionist: Uncle Tom is dancin’ for joy!”

Other criticism has focused more on her aggressive attacks on critics of Israel. In a speech at Brandeis University, writer and filmmaker Max Blumenthal, a harsh critic of Israel, after describing a pair of Valdary critiques of Israel critics Judith Butler and Maya Wind, said, “This is a perfect example of where the Israel lobby is heading, of where Zionism itself is heading, is that a right-wing evangelical has been recruited to attack Jewish intellectuals and to tell them that they are bad Jews.” (Valdary does not consider herself an evangelical or right wing.)

Blumenethal added, “I find it peculiar that someone with no credentials is so outspoken, so heavily promoted on this issue.”

In a response to Blumenthal, Valdary herself invoked race, 
when she and co-author Daniel Mael accused Blumenthal of classifying critics like Valdary as “black people who obviously have no capability to think for themselves.” 

Blumenthal did not mention Valdary’s race in his comments at Brandeis.

After she graduates from the University of New Orleans, Valdary hopes to intern at The Wall Street Journal, on the opinion side, and to study at the Tikvah Advanced Institutes, a right-leaning series of political and economic seminars. 

She also wants to spend a year in Israel. Upon her return, Valdary hopes to start a “Zionist movement,” though her plans on that front are still hazy.
Whatever it turns out to be, though, Valdary will have fans eagerly awaiting her moves.
“Her heart is beautiful, her mind is beautiful, her words are powerful,” the ZOA’s Klein said. “She’s really the whole package.”

Tuesday, September 9, 2014

The Watch that the "gedoilim" will soon prohibit!

Nu Nu! The Chasidishe Rebbes along time ago, "osered" wrist watches, watch them go bananas now!

Apple  strapped computing to the wrist with Apple Watch.
“Apple Watch is the most personal device we have ever created,” Apple chief executive Tim Cook said while announcing the hotly-anticipated move into wearable computing.
The watch comes in two sizes and an array of choices of interchangeable, fashionable bands. Cook introduced Apple Watch with the “one more thing” introduction that was a trademark of iconic Apple co-founder Steve Jobs.

“It is the next chapter in Apple’s story,” Cook said of the first new product category to be entered by the company since the death of Jobs in 2011.
“We invented intimate ways to connect and communicate directly from your wrist; it works seamlessly with iPhone and it is also a comprehensive health and fitness device.”
Apple has been working on Watch for a long time, and didn’t just shrink the iPhone and strap it to the wrist, Cook told a rapt audience in a performing arts center in Silicon Valley where Jobs introduced the Macintosh computer 30 years ago.
While Apple Watch has touch-screen capabilities, many controls were designed into a “digital crown” button to avoid fingers from blocking screens.
Sensors on the Watch can detect a wearer’s pulse, and the devices tap into motion sensing features in iPhones to provide a “comprehensive picture of activity” and get help working toward fitness goals, according to Apple senior vice president of design Jonathan Ive.
Applications for Watch including map software that guides people to destinations with gentle “taps” on the wrist.
Apple watch will be available early of next year starting at $349.

Monday, September 8, 2014

Satmarism vs Zionism Part 2 ... "Zionists Started the 6 Day War"


PART 2
Recently, Satmar published a booklet,  שמעו דבר ה׳  a transcript of Reb Yoel Teitelbaum's Shalosh Seudois Torelech given during and  immediately after the 6 day war, in 1967. The booklet is accompanied with an MP3 which is an actual  recording of the Rebbe speaking on Shabbos at Shaloish Seudois.
Notice the arrogant title of the booklet: "Listen to the Words of Hashem," as if the Satmar Shitah is the words of Hashem!

Click on link to read Part 1
Part 1 Titled  "Chabad Shasai Tzvi" was posted on Sept 7


PART 2, Titled "Zionists Started the 6 Day War"


I will loosely translate page 23

In this 1967 Shalosh Seudah Toirele, the Satmar Rebbe, Reb Yoel Teitelbaum, rewrites history, and says that the "Zionists started the 6 day war" and that the "Zionists antagonized Hitler, and that's why millions were murdered."

" There is no doubt, that the they [the Zionists] brought on the whole tragedy [6 day war]. This whole war didn't have to happen. This goes back to the Sinai Campaign, Jews were peacefully  living in Egypt, I know this first hand as I spoke to Egyptian Jews themselves and that the [Sinai Campaign] instigated  the Egyptian Arabs against the Jews living there.
Not only did they instigate Haman [Nasser] but they also instigated the real Haman [Hitler].
This I remember very well, when during the war years [WW2] the Zionists declared war on Hitler, may his name be obliterated. And Hitler responded: "They declared war on me? I will answer them" 
And, because of our multitude of sins, we saw the results of this. He [Hitler] had so many millions of Jews under his control .... how do you declare war on him to instigate him? And this brought all the murders! 
There are many stories that Jews could have been saved were it not for the Zionists, we don't have to repeat it here, those who want to know, know!" 


Now,my dear readers, read the truth about the Sinai campaign:
In 1955, Egyptian President Gamal Abdel Nasser began to import arms from the Soviet Bloc to build his arsenal for the confrontation with Israel. In the short-term, however, he employed a new tactic to prosecute Egypt's war with Israel. He announced it on August 31, 1955:
"Egypt has decided to dispatch her heroes, the disciples of Pharaoh and the sons of Islam and they will cleanse the land of Palestine....There will be no peace on Israel's border because we demand vengeance, and vengeance is Israel's death."
The escalation continued with the Egyptian blockade of the Straits of Tiran, and Nasser's nationalization of the Suez Canal in July 1956. On October 14, Nasser made clear his intent:
"I am not solely fighting against Israel itself. My task is to deliver the Arab world from destruction through Israel's intrigue, which has its roots abroad. Our hatred is very strong. There is no sense in talking about peace with Israel. There is not even the smallest place for negotiations."
Less than two weeks later, on October 25, Egypt signed a tripartite agreement with Syria and Jordan placing Nasser in command of all three armies.
The continued blockade of the Suez Canal and Gulf of Aqaba to Israeli shipping, combined with the increased fedayeen attacks and the bellicosity of recent Arab statements, prompted Israel, with the backing of Britain and France, to attack Egypt on October 29, 1956.
So did the Israel instigate Nasser, or did Nasser instigate Israel?
But for the "herring fressers" at the Shalosh Seudas tish, who read Der Goy, who didn't understand a word of English, who got their news from Yossel Ashkanazi, this was history!

The Rebbe Said:
"" There is no doubt, that the they [the Zionists] brought on the whole tragedy [6 day war]. This whole war didn't have to happen."

There are millions upon millions of people who are still alive and well and remember the 6 day war, and the Rebbe's words are right out of the Arab handbook. Not one letter that the Rebbe said has an iota of reality!  
The whole Jewish world in May of 1967, was in a panic, envisioning another holocaust in Israel .... Arab wolves screaming that they will kill all the Jews, and so Israel had no choice but to pre-empt the Arab murderers. When Israel destroyed the enemies and captured the Kosel, all Jews even Satmar Chassidim (except for the Rebbe, of course, who saw his whole shita slowly go down the drain) were jubilant and thanking G-d for these miraculous event.
The Rebbe never read an English paper in his entire life, so where did he get his info? He says in this very Toirele, that he has no Ruach Hakodesh" so it must be that he made it all up to fit his agenda!

Here in a very short version is what really happened:

In May 1967,Egyptian President Abdul Gamel Nasser cried out for Pan Arab Unity with a threat to push Israel "into the sea." The armies of Egypt, Syria and Jordan mobilized their troops to surround Israel and kicked out the UN observers.
Israel, seeing that she was outnumbered by armies of three nations, decided that a surprise attack was the best way to deal with an impending war. Thus by surprising Egypt, Jordan and Syria, Israel averted her possible annihilation and defeated the Arabs in six days.


The Rebbe Said: 
"Zionists declared war on Hitler, may his name be obliterated. And Hitler responded: "They declared war on me? I will answer them" 

Well, Not exactly! 
 There was no Zionist "war" against Germany. One only hears about this "war" in Nazi propaganda. 

The notion that "the Zionists" [collectively or worldwide] 'waged [or declared] war on Germany' is utterly preposterous. 

"The Zionists" had no soldiers. 
"The Zionists" didn't have even one tank, one military airplane or even a machine-gun. 
At no time did the German military feel threatened by "the Zionists". The Zionists were not in any position to wage war.

The Rebbe may have been  talking about headlines that appeared in London's Daily Express in March 1933: 
"Judea Declares War on Germany!" - 
Daily Express, March 24, 1933. "Judea Declares War on Germany! Jews of all the World Unite! 
Boycott of German Goods! Mass Demonstrations!" - 

These were all headlines in the Daily Express on March 24, 1933. This worldwide economic boycott of Germany by Jews was called when Hitler assumed power in Germany. The Nazis of course duly passed the detestable Nuremburg laws, which effectively excluded Jews from public life. It must be noted however that Nazi racist ideology was well entrenched long before the calls for a Jewish economic boycott on any country.

And the headlines never mentioned the word "Zionists" 
This had nothing to do with Zionists....
The Rebbe got all this from Nazi propaganda to fit his agenda!

More Chareidim are Entering the IDF

Despite a predicted sharp decline in the number of chareidim entering the IDF due to the chareidi draft efforts, data presented to a ministerial committee shows otherwise. 

According to the numbers presented to a ministerial committee on Sunday 12 Elul, there is a 39% increase in the number of chareidim entering the IDF.

In 2013-2014 a total of 1,972 chareidim entered the IDF while the goal for the year was set at 2,000. For the sake of comparison, 1,416 chareidim entered the IDF in the year earlier (2012-2013) and 1,327 a year before that (2011-2012).


11,000 chareidim reported to the chareidi induction center and received a draft deferment and they were referred to programs offered by the Ministry of the Economy to bring them into the workplace.

The civilian service program failed, with only 801 chareidim opting for service instead of the IDF. This number is a far cry from the predictions from government officials.

Of the inductees in 2013-2014; 863 entered combat units and the IDF is now setting up Tamar, a unique combat training for chareidim that will not be part of Nachal Chareidi but the Givati Brigade. 

The new option is aimed at increasing the options for chareidim entering the IDF wishing to become combatants.

Committee Chair MK (Yesh Atid) Yaakov Peri told his colleagues the new chareidi draft law is paving the way to the integration of the chareidi community into mainstream society. He added “today, just 14 months following committee approval and 5 months following Knesset approval I am pleased to say that we are witness to the beginning of a social revolution”.

Satmar Bikur Choilim ignors Asifa against Internet, has a Website!


According to Satmar, Asifas are only for the frum shmegegies, 
Satmar Bikur Choilim doesn't have to abide by any rules, 
Here click on their elaborate website!

http://satmarbc.org/

Hat tip: sk

Satmarism vs Zionism, Part 1 .... Chabad is Shabsai Tzvi"


Recently, Satmar published a booklet,  שמעו דבר ה׳  a transcript of Reb Yoel Teitelbaum's Shalosh Seudois Torelech given during and  immediately after the 6 day war, in 1967. The booklet is accompanied with an MP3 which is an actual  recording of the Rebbe speaking on Shabbos at Shaloish Seudois.
Notice the arrogant title of the booklet: "Listen to the Words of Hashem," as if the Satmar Shitah is the words of Hashem!

Satmar is feeling the heat on their irrelevant shitah vis a vis the State of Israel, with reality flying in their faces, and  facts contradicting everything they preached and believed. They are in panic mode as they were in 1967, when they saw that the frum world, by in large, laughed at the ridiculous rants and ravings of the Rebbe! 
The reality was just the opposite of what was taught by the Rebbe. 

Now, with the State of Israel, in full bloom as predicted by our prophets, with miracles happening on a daily bases, with G-D protecting the citizens of the State; Hashem's miraculous protection as over 2,000 missiles were raining down on them , with Jews from all corners of the world coming home, they look like a bunch of pre-historic fools. The Chassidim  are realizing that the shita doesn't hold water, and the Chassidim with a smidgen of  brains are questioning their previous Satmar teachings.

Satmar decided on an all out propaganda campaign, to try to keep the Chassidim in the fold, and to answer their questions. 
On a weekly basis, they publish their nonsense in Der Yid, Der Blatt and Dee Zeitung, but it isn't enough, because the Chassidim with smart phones are reading reality and it contradicts everything that Satmar preaches.
So they decided to regurgitate the Rebbes 1967 Shalosh Seudois Toralach in the hope to stem the tide of reality!

I will post some of the Rebbes sayings and I will comment, so that my Satmar readers see that there is another side that actually makes sense, and that has sources in our Holy Torah!

I will feature parts of this sefer every week not in any particular order and translate and comment. 

Today we have part 1 Titled "Chabad Shabsai Tzvi?"
And this I will only translate, since it it so far off the charts, that I have nothing to say!
Page 28

Page 29 

The above two pages, 28 & 29 of the booklet is a direct attack on Chabad, comparing Chabad to Shabsai Tzvi (the false messiah) because Chabad in 1967 went to the front to  encourage the IDF to don Tefillin:

On page 28, the Rebbe first writes that "Evil People" grab on to the Mitzvah of Tefillin as opposed to other Mitzvas to prove that they are righteous????  Hmmm, Okayyyyyyyyyyy?

On Page 29 on top, the Rebbe says it is prohibited to put Tefillin on soldiers because of their spiritual contamination! He adds that FFB"S can put on Tefillin even if they are spiritually defiled, but not BTS???????????????

I will translate page 29 , where the Rebbe writes that he "doesn't believe that anyone does teshuvah just because he put tefillin on,
 and  adds that "Shabsai Tzvi also made Baalie Teshuvois"

"I'm only saying this, because this [putting on tefillin] became a fad.
The frauds and the evil ones' have attached themselves to this particular mitzvah to advertise to the world, "I'm wearing Tefillin."
I don't believe any of this [that this made anyone frum], and even if it should be true, ..... 
Shabsai Tzvi made Baalei Teshuves in the tens of thousands ...
It is brought down from the books of Reb Yaakov M'emdin and others, that there were Jews that distributed their total wealth and went to Shul to learn and they said "Moshiach is already here" and they did Teshuvah!
Reb Yaakov M'emdin writes that by  the Chacham Tzvi, there was a Shabsai Tzvinik, ..... everybody saw that he did Teshuvah, but from this there was tragedy,"
there is nothing to doubt, who can even doubt their Heresy!"

Sunday, September 7, 2014

Lipa Schmeltzer Sings for Charedi Troops


Chassidic music sensation Lipa Schmeltzer paid a visit to IDF soldiers of the Netzah Yehuda (formerly Nahal Charedi) battalion, to perform for soldiers as a show of solidarity
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Schmeltzer is considered something of a maverick; he hails from the right wing Skver Chassidim, and has faced criticism form some within his community for embracing "modern" styles of music.

But he isn't phased, and says he identifies with the soldiers of "Nahal Charedi" - many of whom come from Charedi homes and communities and have faced ostracism for joining the IDF.

"Nahal Charedi puts up two fights. The regular soldier puts up the fight at the front," but knows that when he returns home he will be embraced for defending his county, he said.

In contrast, he notes "Nahal Charedi has to put up a fight at the front, but also has to put up a fight with people who think that shomrei Torah umitzvot (observant Jews) can't join the army," referring to elements within the Charedi community who are openly hostile towards Charedim who serve in the IDF.

"They're doing an amazing job by showing that you can be a good Jew... and be in the army, and that's a tremendous accomplishment."

Schmeltzer explained that he always performs for Nahal Charedi whenever he visits Israel, "not to [visit] Nahal Charedi, I won't feel fulfilled - this is the icing on the cake."

Two police-controlled phone calls calls between alleged victim and Bodenheimer will prove Bodenheimer innocent.


There are no other victims, according to a DA insider, and the 2 phone calls between the alleged victim and Rabbi Bodenheimer will probably prove that he never touched the child, says Kenneth Gribetz, attorney for the defense.

Rabbi Gavriel Bodenheimer, 71, principal of Yeshiva Bais Mikroh, has rejected a plea agreement with state prison time and will fight the sexual abuse charges at trial.

In two recorded conversations concerning sexual acts, Bodenheimer told the boy that he didn't know what the boy was talking about "and he should go to the police if he has concerns," Gribetz said.

"We will be using the recordings at trial," Gribetz said. 

"There will be no plea to any charges."

Gribetz said the rabbi has never been accused of sexual abuse before. He said the defense strategy with co-counsel Deborah Wolikow-Loewenberg will include asking the judge to allow the jurors to visit the school. He said the offices are open and the spaces inside are visible through windows.

Gwyneth Paltrow converting to Judaism

Personally, I think she will become a Satmar Chasidisteh, because not too long ago, she appeared singing  karaoke at a fundraiser for the Palestinian charity, the Hoping Foundation, a front-group for HAMAS and other Islamic terrorist groups founded by Hugh Grant’s Muslim girlfriend Jemimah Khan and some anti-Israel left-wing Jews. 

Paltrow’s karaoke song choice, “Killing Me Softly,” is ironic, since the Hoping Foundation provides money and resources to HAMAS operatives and others running Palestinian refugee camps and breeding and training future killers, who do NOT kill “softly.”

For years she has followed Kabbalah, which has its roots in the Jewish faith.
Now Gwyneth Paltrow is said to be ‘quietly converting’ to Judaism.

The claim was made by the New York Post, which said Miss Paltrow was already raising her daughter Apple, ten, and son Moses, eight, in a Jewish setting after learning about her family history on the US version of the genealogy In the program, Who Do You Think You Are?. Miss Paltrow discovered she came from a long line of influential East European rabbis.
Previously she has joked that she was a ‘Jewish princess’ after learning she had 17 generations of rabbis running through her family tree.

Oh my God, if you saw the amount of food that I do. I am the original Jewish mother. I make meals from these new recipes that look, smell and taste like the food I always cooked, but are also super healthy. That is an additional joy.’

Miss Paltrow was herself raised in a mixed-faith household. Her late father, film producer and director Bruce Paltrow, was Jewish, while her actress mother, Blythe Danner, is a Christian. And she was raised both Jewish and Christian, which she said was ‘such a nice way to grow up’.

Earlier this year Miss Paltrow and her 37-year-old husband, the lead singer with band Coldplay, announced their separation after ten years of marriage.

In a statement on Miss Paltrow’s website, in which she referred to the ‘Conscious Uncoupling’ of their partnership, the pair said they had been ‘working hard for well over a year’ to salvage their marriage.
Last night her spokesman did not respond to requests for a comment.

Ami's Shenanigans


The war in Gaza is basically over, so the "Chief Clown" of Ami Magazine, Yitz Frankfurter,  is back to his old tricks.
In an editorial in this week's issue, titled "Piercing Indifference" he bashes the secular Israelis for not publicizing  the fact that the Lakewood student, Aaron Sofer z"l, was missing.

He quotes an article written by Allison Kaplan- Sommer, that was published in the self hating Israeli  far left leaning newspaper, Haaretz.

"But in Israel, the only outlets that have been covering Sofer's disappearance and the search for him are religious publications and English-language media. As a result, the major international news outlets based in Israel haven't focused on the story either. The key question is whether this is merely a media failing or a lack of attention that reflects and could result in, a less than vigorous effort on the part of Israeli authorities to uncover what has happened to him."

Then in a swipe at Mishpacha magazine (his former employer that gave him and his family Parnassah, for years),  that hyped a recent poll, that basically proved that the majority of secular Israelis don't dislike their Chareidi counterparts,
 he wrote mockingly:

"Last Pesach, some in the Orthodox community announced with great fanfare the results of a poll that showed that a majority of secular Israelis don't "hate" their chareidie counterparts ....
"The majority of secular Israelis, however, also seem to be apathetic toward our anguish. That not only hurts, but as I have previously pointed out, may prove the truism about indifference: that it is an even worse disposition towards another human being than loathing. And that stings."

First of all, Mr. Frankfurter, didn't Reb Chaim Kanievski say when Aaron Sofer was missing,  that he "is alive and well?"
So why should the secular press report a Yeshiva boy missing, when he was "alive and well?"

Second of all, are you saying that the "majority of secular Israelis are apathetic toward our anguish?" 
Did I read that right?
What a blatant bald face lie!
The Mishtara when notified 6 hours after Aaron went missing, starting searching immediately, this was on shabbos!

And how many "chilonim" searched in Chevron for the 3 kidnapped yeshiva boys?
Yes, the police didn't get onto it right away, because they thought it was a prank call, but not because they were yeshiva boys or because they were Dati.

And why shouldn't the Chilonim "loath" the Yeshivah Boys. 
Didn't the Yeshiva boys run from Ashdod and Ashkelon at the start of the Gaza War, even though they were told by their Roshei Yeshivah that Torah is "matzel,"  while the modern Hesder Zionist boys, stayed  in Ashdod to help the residents in Ashdod cope?

And now to the most important point!
The whole wide world now knows, how Aaron Sofer died.
In his black jacket dehydrated!
Don't you think that you should have focused your entire editorial on the sheer madness of going on a hike with no phone, hat and jacket and no water bottle?



Friday, September 5, 2014

A Single’s Perspective – An Open Response To Article By Reb Shlomo Yehuda Rechnitz

scrThe following letter was written TheYeshivaWorld in response to an article penned by R' Shlomo Rechinitz,

In that article he  mentioned that the chances of a girl, 25 years old, getting married, was 15% - 0!


As I sit here trying to gather my thoughts on the recent shidduch article you printed

I can’t seem to alleviate a resounding thought from my head “once a girl reaches the age of 25, her chances of getting married are less than 15%”. 

As a 28 year old single girl in the yeshiva world, I shudder at the thought of this possible reality. 

While my initial reaction to this alarming statistic was fear and sadness, upon having some time to think and reflect, those feelings changed to a strong sense of frustration. While I can sincerely appreciate the fact that there are people out there trying to help and make a change, I think we have it all wrong. I am not saying I have the answers and I am not going to sit here and write an alternative solution, but I want to try and share some thoughts and insights from the perspective of an “older single” in shidduchim.

I have no older siblings, so when I entered the shidduch parsha at the age of 19, I felt both excited and hopeful. My two best friends married the first boy they went out with and I thought I would surely follow suit. I always wanted to get married young – it seemed like the “next step” after spending a year in seminary. 

My first date was a disaster and after coming home crying, it was my first “reality check” that this may not be as easy or painless as I anticipated. It‘s been almost 9 years since that first date and boy have I learned a lot – both about myself and about being part of a society that “expects” girls to be married no later than age 22. Maybe you would consider me one of your “hopeless, helpless and wounded” girls in the parsha, but truth be told, I don’t see it that way. 

B”H I am smart, well-educated, have a good job, a great group of friends and a supportive family. I am attractive, healthy and feel that I have a lot to offer in a relationship. 

So, why is it, that if this is how I view myself, when it comes to the society as a whole the first thing they see is “SINGLE.” I think this is where the problem lies.

When I think about what the biggest source of pain has been throughout this process, it is not “waiting for the phone to ring” or watching others move on. It is not the dating process, the singles events, meeting shadchanim, rejection, constantly needing to be “on”, sending out a picture to try and “convince” guys to go out with me or always having to look my best. It is not watching younger siblings or students married with babies. 

The greatest source of pain that I have felt is everybody else’s reaction to my “situation”. I have thought that perhaps I am just being ultra sensitive and had actually planned on waiting to write an article on the topic until I was married so I can be a little more objective. But after reading this article I felt compelled to write something and get the message out there. GIRLS DON’T WANT TO BE PITIED; Nobody wants to be pitied.

I remember going to work (in a secular office) on my 25th birthday and crying at a team meeting. My supervisor came in the next day and said, “I hope I am not being disrespectful towards your culture, but when I came home I felt so angry. I felt angry that a society can make a person feel THAT bad about turning 25.” I thought about what she said, and I think she was right. Why is it that in the secular world, I am viewed as a young adult with my whole life ahead of me and the fact that I am single doesn’t even cross their minds? The secular world doesn’t pity me or think any less of me because I haven’t found the right guy and they think the age of 25 is YOUNG. 

Unfortunately, the same cannot be said about the frum, orthodox world. Unfortunately, in the frum world, with each passing birthday girls are left feeling more afraid, sad, rejected and undesirable. I don’t think this feeling comes from an inner sense of insecurity or lack of self-esteem. I think it comes from the way our society has “labeled” what it means to be an “older single”.

I strongly believe that the reason I am single has absolutely nothing to do with statistics, age gaps, lack of guys or anything else along those lines. And as long as we focus on that being the problem, we aren’t going to come up with a solution. As a good friend of mine likes to put it “this is not a shidduch crisis, it is an emunah crisis”. Everyone has to deal with different nisyonos in life. Being single is one of those nisyonos. Hashem doesn’t work based on numbers or statistics. If Hashem wants, he can send me my zivug today. But clearly, that is not where Hashem wants me to be right now. For reasons I don’t understand, I am meant to go through this painful process. If I truly believed that “less than 15% statistic” I would have a very hard time waking up in the morning and facing the world. Why would I daven so hard for something that seems so “unlikely” to happen? I don’t think Hashem is looking for us to find the reasons behind the challenges he sends us on both a personal level and on a klal level. I think Hashem wants us to take the experiences we go through and become better people. Hashem wants us to grow from these challenges and use them to help and support other people. For any single person reading this article – please don’t listen to the statistics. We are not numbers, we are human beings. Bishvili nivra haolam.

In my opinion, this is the biggest problem. Reading an article like this doesn’t give me chizuk. Reading an article like this reaffirms all my fears – that age means too much in our society, that getting older means getting “less desired”. It is not this way in the secular world and it should not be this way in our world either. 

People need to stop stigmatizing girls based on age. Instead of pitying us, be supportive. Instead of thinking “oy, she’s still not married” think “wow, such a great girl, I am going to think if I know anyone for her”. Instead of labeling us based on age, label us based on our character. Instead of giving us looks of despair, give us looks of encouragement and support. 

I think taking away the strong stigma is a first step in alleviating some of the pain singles have to go through. If age wasn’t such a big deal, such a spoken about “issue”, guys would not be as hung up on it either. As a therapist, working with children who have anxiety, I teach them that the more they focus on their worries, the more their worries grow. The more we sit and focus on age, the more of a “problem” it becomes in the eyes of boys’ mothers and the boys themselves. 

We should help our society see past a number on a paper. Highlight some of the positives that “older singles” have to offer. While I would have loved to get married when I was younger, I feel that the growth I have experienced in these last 9 years has been enormous. Because of this, my relationship with my husband will be that much stronger imyH. Girls who are a little older when they get married are mature, have had life experience, don’t take it for granted when they find the right person, have some money saved up, have depth and insight, have had time to travel with friends and have a strong sensitivity to others who are going through a similar ordeal.

Instead of trying to find a solution to Hashem’s master plan, help promote singles and not make them feel bad for something that is not in their control. Write articles that give support and chizuk, not that highlight and focus on the negative things about hitting the “dreaded age” of 25. We have to work on changing our perspectives. Learn to value us, not pity us. Make us feel accepted instead of rejected. We want to be treated as PEOPLE, not as statistics.

We shouldn’t have to dread going to social functions because we don’t want to deal with the “nebuch” looks and comments we are inevitably going to receive from others. We shouldn’t have to feel we have anything less to offer because Hashem didn’t send our zivug at age 20. We shouldn’t have to feel that with each passing birthday we become less desirable and our chances of getting married significantly decrease. We shouldn’t have to feel “inferior” because of our age.

There is one last point I would like to make, and I think it is an important one. One of the positives that has come out of reading this article is that it has strengthened my emunah and connection to Hashem. 

Let me explain. If I were to absorb and internalize all of the comments both in the article and in response to the article, it would lead me straight down a road of despair and depression. If I were to walk around feeling like a statistic, thinking “is this a life worth living” it would be extremely difficult for me to remain hopeful, positive and self-assured. It would be difficult for me to feel “worthy” of a great guy if these damaging thoughts pervaded my psyche. 

Instead, I read the article and looked over some of the responses and all I could think was “where is G-d in this equation?” If we had full bitachon, we wouldn’t be questioning “why”. We wouldn’t be blaming singles or casting them in a negative light. We wouldn’t be coming up with statistics or asking if this is a life worth living. We would be davening for each other, working on ourselves to be better and strengthening our connection with Hashem. 

By using this nisayon as an opportunity to grow and change for the better, while putting in our hishtadlus, hopefully Hashem will answer our tefillos and send the yeshuos we are all looking for.
It is my fervent hope, that with siyata dishmaya all the singles out there find their zivug and don’t have to go through any more pain. In the meantime, stay strong, don’t give up and keep your head held high because you ARE worthy and imyH some lucky guy will get to see that very very soon.

Please feel free to contact me at shidduchim101@gmail.com

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