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Tuesday, June 10, 2025

Charedie Shidduch Takana DOA

 

by a guy named Ash!

Sorry about the hype. But if you are an older single girl, you can take comfort that the "tzuras hayeshiva" is unharmed.


Remember when they were finally doing something about the Shidduch crisis?

Well, that is over for now. 

While, of course, a voicemail recently going around is of questionable reliability, the facts on the ground and what is being told to seminary girls coming back show that the takana is being abandoned.

I have personally heard conflicting reports as to why it is so. Some say the rosh yeshivos suddenly realized the math was wrong (unlikely, IMO. Seems more like apologetics). The other two reasons I heard were this:

  1. The BMG Roshei Yeshivos were opposed to the initiative

  2. Many of the Roshei Yeshivos disagreed with eliminating fourth year beis medrash, saying it will harm the tzuras hayeshiva.

Unfortunately, these sound more likely.

The words “tzuras hayeshiva” have caused unspeakable harm in klal yisrael, where a modern day invention has been reprojected into the past, as if Yehuda’s yeshiva in Goshen looked like a beis medrash in Lakewood, rendering it an untouchable part of the mesorah while it is in fact less than two hundred years old (and fourth year BM maybe fifty). 

And BMG does not want to support anything that would take away its freezer. (It’s also bad economics - a single bochur pays tuition while a kolel yungerman gets paid money. The longer they are the former the better.)

It’s a pity one of the first major initiatives for positive change has collapsed so quickly. Some would say this is predictable. We really don’t care about ourselves.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

The plan would never work anyways. As long as the boys are convinced they are entitled to at least 5 years support (ie rich Shver), and must have a stunning looking girl (ie skinny and real pretty) makes no difference what year they start Shiduchim. Besides the stats they base the whole issue being age gap is full of false assumptions.

Anonymous said...

Please provide more information

Zako said...

The Shiduch crisis will be gone when every single Yid, avreich, balaboos, balaboosta, you name it, will take upon himself to acheive 3 shiduchim throughout his life.
Anyone can do it. I'm not a shadchan, and I did it.
It's not a hobby, it's a chiuv.
Hashem has His plans, do your part.

moshe said...

Leave your Lakewood bashing at the door. Freezer has nothing to do with it. If you're so against the freezer why make girls sit in it once they come back from seminary?

anonymous said...

Are you actually reviewing screening these comments ?
-' Go OTD ' do you ascribe to these beliefs ? ?
freedom of press ? ? ?
why bother reviewing ?

Anonymous said...

Go partner with Greta thunberg and fix global warming. The bizayon is that some rabonim fell for this to begin with