From the THINKINGYID
Has anyone seen this?! Has anyone read this?!
What in the world is going on in our community?
I guess Tevya was right when he said, “When you’re rich, they think you really know!”
Let me fill you in.
Recently, there has been a flyer circulating our community, you can see it pictured above.
Here is the crux of it: A few shuls in Monsey, as well as some well-meaning families in our community are joining together to help tackle the “Shidduch Crisis” and this is how they plan on doing so.
The flyer states that the program is being sponsored by a few generous families who will be covering most of the “Shadchan fees” while the families and singles involved will only have to pay for “Success Fees,” In turn, these shadchanim will work to help singles in the program find dates and proper matches/suitors.
Here is their pricing breakdown:
$150 for the first date
$150 for the third date
$200 for the fifth date
What these people expect, seemingly, is that singles in the program will not only pay for dates and everything those dates entail (gas, food, activities, clothing, etc.) On top of all of that, they will pay for their Shadchan sending them on a “successful” date. This is beyond ludicrous. To add to this already mind-numbing, inane logic, they also expect each side of a successful shidduch to pay another $1500-$1800+ (per side, or more as the families feel is appropriate)to the shadchan! Isn’t everyone lucky that they even allow the moneys paid towards the first five dates to be counted towards this final fee?!










