“I don’t speak because I have the power to speak; I speak because I don’t have the power to remain silent.” Rav Kook z"l

Monday, February 2, 2026

The craziness of the "Mitzva Tantz" gets crazier than ever

 

16 comments:

Garnel Ironheart said...

Okauy, I'll ask: why is he covering his face?

Anonymous said...

Shmiras Eiynayim. Not to look a females.

Dusiznies said...

So are you saying that this is really an "aveirah tantz?" Because everyone else is staring at her!
So if it's prohibited, why isn't it prohibited for everyone?
So is he a greater Tzaddik than Rav Shmuel bar Rav Yitzchok in Ketubot 17a that not only danced in front of the kalla but praised how she looked !

Anonymous said...

There is obviously some other reason why he is covering his face. If it were for tznius reasons then all the other men there would be doing so too.

Garnel Ironheart said...

I'm actually surprised that women are even allowed in the room.

Anonymous said...

עם סכל ונבל

Anonymous said...

I believe there is a chazal that encourages gazing at a kallah

Anonymous said...

Maybe he's just so ugly and they don't want the Kallah to run away

Anonymous said...

I'm sure you saw the end of the gemara where it says explicitly it is forbidden to look at a kallah

Dusiznies said...

5:36
So we should totally discard the beginning of this story?
The why was it put in the gemarra?
In fact we all sing these very words in the here and now
כלה נאה וחסידה

? said...

Which "Hasidic" sect is it?

Anonymous said...

אָמַר רַבִּי שְׁמוּאֵל בַּר נַחְמָנִי אָמַר רַבִּי יוֹנָתָן: מוּתָּר לְהִסְתַּכֵּל בִּפְנֵי כַלָּה כׇּל שִׁבְעָה, כְּדֵי לְחַבְּבָהּ עַל בַּעְלָהּ. וְלֵית הִלְכְתָא כְּווֹתֵיהּ.

https://www.sefaria.org/Ketubot.17a.8

Dusiznies said...

וּבֵית הִלֵּל אוֹמְרִים: ״כַּלָּה נָאָה וַחֲסוּדָה״.
עיין טוש"ע אה"ע סימן סה סעיף א:
The Tur Shulchan Aruch paskens like Bais Hillel that you can look at the Kallah and sing that she is pretty!

Anonymous said...

אסור להסתכל בכלה (אבל מותר להסתכל בתכשיטין שעליה או בפריעת ראשה) (טור):

https://www.sefaria.org/Shulchan_Arukh,_Even_HaEzer.65.2

שרה ליין said...

9:59
This Tur that you quote is not practiced by the biggest Gedoilei Hador! They all stare at the Kallah. Have you been living under a rock?

שרה ליין said...

How is this even possible??
מותר להסתכל בתכשיטין שעליה או בפריעת ראשה
You can look at her jewlry on her chest and you can stare at her hair but cannot look at her face!
Makes no sense and is impossible to do!~