Monday, June 20, 2022

Rabbanute Pats themselves on the back after getting a guy to give his wife a get after 33 years

 



 

5 comments:

Professor Ryesky said...

In his book The Shame Borne in Silence (Pittsburgh: Mirkov Publications, 1996), on
pages 125 - 126, Rabbi Abraham J. Twerski, M.D. writes:

"A husband's refusal to provide a get is an obvious abuse of power. He has taken a provision of the Torah and made it into a weapon of tyrrany and oppression.

Without exception, every case of aguna, every case of a husband's refusal to give a get, will reveal a history of a woman's having been abused during the marriage. This last and perhaps greatest abuse of power, refusal to give a get, occurs only in individuals who were abusers and who had been either batterers or tyrannic controllers of their wives."

"In virtually all of these cases, the abused wife had turned for help to her family or to rabbis earlier in the marriage, and they had made efforts to reconcile the couple, convincing her to return to the marriage for the sake of shalom bayis. It is these cases that may result in the woman becoming an aguna. The benign intentions of those who sought to preserve shalom bay is unfortunately contributed to the plight of the woman who became an aguna . .. ."

http://www.urimpublications.com/the-shame-borne-in-silence-spouse-abuse-in-the-jewish-community.html

na said...

derucheu darkei noam v'chol nesiviseu sholom, it is not

Joe Magdeburger said...

Lock him up with pickled herring and salty pretzels. Then give him water in exchange for a get.

Anonymous said...

To Pr Ryeski
"Without exception, every case of aguna, every case of a husband's refusal to give a get, will reveal a history of a woman's having been abused during the marriage. This last and perhaps greatest abuse of power, refusal to give a get, occurs only in individuals who were abusers and who had been either batterers or tyrannic controllers of their wives." ???

Without exception ? every case of aguna ? This greatest abuse of power, refusal to give a get, occurs ONLY in individuals who were abusers ? and who had been either batterers or tyrannic controllers of their wives ? Really ??
Honestly I wish it would be that simple... any Sholom Bayis maker can explain to you how often the WIFE is actually the abuser (I said often, not in every case, of course) and still playing victim.
Feminism and binary methods are not the solution here.

Anonymous said...

Its unfortunate, but most of the Times the men refuse to give a get its after 2 years of fighting where the wife doesn't want to give any visitation rights and if he gets visitation its with crazy conditions. After 2 years when this holy rebetzin wants to move on in life she puts out an emotional plea on Facebook that all she is asking is for her husband to give a get. And no one could understand why he wouldn't give it together with a meat board and poem