Sunday, December 9, 2012

Heart rendering letter from a Weberman victim

Weberman may walk, "Chas V'shalom" but even if he does, let the Satmar community know, what they are protecting.... read the following letter from a victim.

While this is truly difficult for me to share, I feel that it’s my duty and obligation to shed some light on this very controversial case. When I was a young adolescent I had the unfortunate “PRIVILEGE” of getting to know Nechemya Weberman over a period of 2+ years.

During my “COUNSELING” sessions with him, I got to know the real monster behind his beard and peyes. Without going in to all the “Dirty” details, I will say this much. The constant barrage of emotional, psychological,  and physical and most of all sexual abuse was to say at the very least devastating and severely damaging.

 I still shudder at the memories of those awful visits with him.

I would like to share some insight on this case as a Survivor from Weberman’s Abuse. Firstly, I am grateful every day that there is no permanent damage/scaring which can be used as evidence of the abuse. For those of you saying there is no physical evidence, you are right. But ask yourselves this, what kind of physical evidence can anyone really expect to see? It’s not like he is stupid enough to allow an audience while he held down his victims with the full weight of his body and forced himself on them.

Secondly, I know for a fact that one of weberman’s character witnesses were physically intimate with him, whether it was consensual or forced I can’t attest to, but she was certainly a minor at the time either way. The sad truth is that she is still under his grip, which trust me is way stronger than any of you can imagine, and therefore she will do anything to protect him. (Yes, including perjury). There are many other victims like myself, I know because we speak on a daily basis, which will not come out against him in effort to protect their identity. Either because they are now living happy lives and refuse to disrupt it for anyone else’s personal gain or because their statute of limitation is over so they can’t take legal action anyway. Why put yourself through the torture the other victim who did confront him endured, if legally it won’t hold any grounds. I also know for a fact that there are testimonies from MARRIED WOMAN who had consensual relations with this pig. Yes everyone you saw right “An Aishes Ish”. However, this information is not actionable since the both participants were more than willing, and overage.  Of course from a legal standpoint these facts are irrelevant since being a sick perverted animal, isn’t a felony.

For those of you thinking, well why should we believe you? Whether you chose to believe it or not is Your prerogative, but I can tell you this much – I did share my horrifying experience with some close friends, family and mentor several years before Weberman was arrested for this case. In case you were wondering, yes – he did show us pornography, he did have exact specifications what to wear externally as well as underwear, and yes- he did violently force himself on us (it was not a mutually enjoyable relationship. The horrifying memories of those years still haunt me every day, but thanks to hashem I am on the road to recovery with the help and support of my wonderful husband, and my loving family.

Another thought; why would anyone in their right mind put themselves through a public trial knowing the consequences of such doings? The family was put to shame, the grandchildren expelled from school, the victim accused of lying and fabricating a story for revenge. The Answer is; she did it to try and protect our children from even having to suffer the same fate. I know I live with deep regrets and guilt for not speaking up sooner. I believe that I could’ve saved those innocent souls from suffering all those years, if I only had the courage to speak up .

The purpose of this post, is not to convince anyone of his guilt, but hopefully to answer some of these questions which are understandably in people’s minds.

 I cannot share any more personal details so not to risk revealing my identity. I choose to remain anonymous to protect my friends and family from the harassment and pressure which the community I am still part of to date will inflict on us.

I do ask that you Please watch over your children, and stay attuned to warning signs!


Anonymous said...

I really do believe if there was other cases people wouldn't care and come out to testify,
While I don't know if its true or not ( and I don't think will ever know, no matter what the outcome will be ) I don't believe in the chillul hashem to involve the media so much, you wanna take him to court that's fine with me, but don't blow up the story so that the whole satmar community, and klal yisroel should be on the trial, its between 2 people not between 1 person and the whole chasiddish yiden... Now I do hope that the person who is " right " in this case will win it, hashem should help us all! Happy chanukah

Anonymous said...

Mr. Anonymous, I agree with your general point, but how can Satmar support this guy!?

Anonymous said...

I don't believe Weberman is innocent, but how do we know this story is not written by same people? We hear there are other victims, but NOT ONE will talk about it??
Mr. anonymous, if not for this chilul hashem, people would shove it under the rug. This way, although sad, Satmar will HAVE to change.

zehava said...

I don't know about the writer of this letter, but I went to nechemya for counseling. He never showed me porn, never touched me, didnt lock the door, and as far as I remember there was no bed in the room. Not to say he's a tzaddik but I went to him not knowing about sex and I came out not knowing about sex. So....

Just Having Fun said...

I totally & unequivocally believe that weberman Yemach Shemo vZichrono is totally guilty, as are Mr. Aharon Teitelbaum Yemach Shemo vZichrono and as is Mr. Zalman Teitelbaum Yemach Shemo vZichrono.

All 3 of them should rot away in jail for ever, to ensure that at least 117 man years are served in prison as is so well deserved.