I want to preface this post with the following caveat .....
Being obese is not healthy .. period.......nothing to do with getting a shidduch ....
Having said that....Let's talk about a girl looking for a shidduch that is not obese but is by 2019 standards a bit overweigh!!
In Yeshivois and Seminaries the Rabbaim and Morahs preach that Jewish values is about the "pneemious" of a person..... that it is "what is in the inside that counts."
אל תסתכל בקנקן אלא במה שיש בו
always quoting Chazal's advice to people , that one shouldn't judge a "book by its cover" so to speak...
And that is absolutely true.... because the bottom line is after you you take your wifey home, you and only you will need to deal with her personality.....
It's not going to be her weight .....
So why do all Yeshivisha learners insist on a girl thats a -3 ?
Is it because they are concerned about her health?
Is there only good chemistry between the learner and the girl if she is "cheenush" (slim in the gypsy hungarian language?
My Theory?
It's all about the neighbors! Absolutely.....
Let the neighbors eat their hearts' out, I'm going to parade my anorexic Kallah with her 8" heels and gucci dress right past their window while they are eating supper ....
Let them choke!
Now look at the advice she gets from the experts...
Only ONE advises her correctly that she should be concerned about her "overall health and emotional well being."

















