Is this really what we call a mitzvah?
A kallah, on the holiest day of her life, is paraded in front of over a thousand chassidim—her face covered, yes, but her dignity exposed. And in this particular clip, it’s her own father spinning her around, making her visibly dizzy. Is this what we mean by tznius?
We hear constant preaching about modesty, about preserving dignity. But where is the modesty in turning a sacred moment into a spectacle? Covering her face doesn’t erase the humiliation—it amplifies it. It’s as if she’s being reduced to a prop in a performance, not honored as a bride.
And the most troubling part? The kallah likely doesn’t even feel humiliated. That’s the tragedy. When a culture normalizes public discomfort and calls it holiness, the ability to recognize what’s inappropriate gets lost.
Let’s be honest: if this happened in any other society, we’d be outraged. But because it’s cloaked in religious ritual, we stay silent. It’s time to ask ourselves—are we preserving tradition, or are we distorting it?
12 comments:
It's not "it's as if". It's "It is"
The way this is done, the woman is reduced to being an object. The real chasuna is the men standing there watching their rebbe and his elite circle celebrate while the women (and the bride) are then shunted off to a different room to do their own thing because chas v'shalom we should allow such a pritzus as inviting the bride to participate in her own wedding.
There are no words that can adequately express my hurt to your comments. This minhag kodosh is uplifting and quite beautiful. If you don't want your daughter to experience it by all means.Dont judge others when it hurts no one.This is a personal decision and a holy mingag for many people. Please view it in that vain.
But it's ok when you humiliate people vee dee machst choizek fin Allen Rothenberg? We know the drill. You invented a new "mitzva" that's min hamuvchar to attack Chassidishe Yidden. It's your "virtue" signaling
5:44
This is exactly my point you yourself has been caught into this perverted custom, I come from this background, and the Mitzva Tantz was a private ceremony with only very close family members in attendance! My point os that these Chassidim have become immune to shaming one of their very own on her most precious day in her life!
It is not a "Minhag Kodesh" it is a perverted minhag!
When did i make Choizek from my good friend Allen, I used to daven Mincha with him for a while, I merely posted something that he himself did in a public forum with at least a 1,000 people in attendance!
The one who did the "humiliating," if you want to call it that, was Allen himself
ושוטה אסור לרחם עליו
"This Chareidie Minhag to Humiliate a Lady…" this your own private feeling.
Meanwhile, thousands of meidalach dream & daven hard every day to be zoiche to reach this matzav.
Who are we to judge ?
The kallah enjoys this. This is her ultimate moment. This is like when the Queen of England is anointed Queen in front of everyone. The kallah takes pride that her father can bask in the sun and SHE can give him that moment. With all chassidim standing and singing, she knows they are there for her, and if not for her, it wouldn't be happening.. and msameach chosson v kallah -- they are here for me -- is a huge mitzva. Noone feels humiliated. Let them do their thing. If you care about women's dignity, focus on matters like GET refusal first that have real consequence.
3:23
Yes of course, it's my own private feeling. But I come from that community, and as I said, this used to be a private ceremony with only close family watching. This ceremony, parading around a young girl being pulled by a leash in circles with over 1,000 men clapping, is a disgrace !
3:29
It's obvious that you are a man who enjoys watching a woman being humiliated.
"She enjoys this?' "this is her ultimate moment?"
We are living in an alternate universe! This is perversion!
Your dumb remark:
"and if not for her, it wouldn't be happening." What???? What does that even mean? Of course, its happening because of her! What a stupid remark!
Boy! I really got to get out of here, you guys are insane
Saying that pulling a bride on a leash and 1,000 pervert men ogling her is
sick! Ver sick!!
DIN is right generally, however, he is wrong to call it a Chareidi minhag, when it is actually a Hasidic custom. Furthermore, even among Hasidim it is not universal, for example, Lubavitchers don't do it, and even those that do it don't all do it the same way, some restrict, limit it more.
Whatever who enjoys here something, a few of them will surely go and jerk off afterwards. who can claim they didn't stare at the woman? (eshes ish)
IIRC there are some Hasidics that do it, but without even a gartel, with no physical connection.
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