You see, today, in Orthodoxy, a man can:
- seduce a woman to leave her husband by claiming that his is the soul of King David and hers of Batsheva. He can promise to marry her upon the (according to him) imminent death of his wife, and still maintain his position, prestige, and influence as head of a yeshiva, having been granted forgiveness by a religious court of his peers (Rav Shmuel Tal). Some brave souls speak out, but they go unheeded.
- be convicted of sex offenses, spend time in jail for them, and still be revered by thousands of followers and honored with the lighting of a torch at a government sponsored event (Rabbi Eliezer Berland).
- confess to having touched students inappropriately (and gone beyond that too), and still teach at prestigious yeshivot, and be defended by some leading rabbis in the community (Rav Motti Elon).
- protect and defend sex offenders, strong-arm professionals to lie about the mental health of accused abusers, stymie investigations into abuse allegations, and work towards the early release of predators and still serve as (deputy) health minister in the Israeli government (Rabbi Yaakov Litzman).
- be accused of molestation and rape for decades, preying on the weakest in the community, threaten victims and their families and still be honored and respected as the chief rabbi of Ukraine (Rabbi Yaakov Bleich).
And a woman can:
- have her motivations questioned and her learning belittled, even while her opportunities to learn are more numerous than ever before.
- expect all male committees to be the ones who define her communal roles and opportunities to participate in ritual.
- be increasingly shut out of holy spaces. The Kotel, Kever Rachel, the ancient cemetery of Tsfat, and more holy sites have smaller and inferior women’s spaces.
- be required to give up her rights, dignity, and possessions in exchange for freedom, in the event that her husband refuses her a divorce.
- hear from rabbis in positions of authority that spousal abuse is not grounds for divorce.
- see no images of women, even at an all-women conference.
And she cannot:
- use her own face to advertise her business.
- see images of other women like her in advertisements or publications.
- read an Orthodox publication that uses the correct words for BREAST CANCER or discusses what it may look and feel like.
- Participate alongside men in setting policy for communal issues.
- influence the determination and execution of policies that affect her.
Should she seek to change these policies, and ask:
- for women to be included in conversations and decisions that affect them…
- to have a headshot in her bio…
- to have a seat in shul where she can see and hear…
…she can expect to be called a “feminist with an agenda.”
Why are God fearing, religious women being increasingly shut out? Why are our motivations constantly and consistently questioned?
Why are the things that mean so much to us, walled off from us? And who gave the wall- builders that right?
Why is male access guaranteed, while female access shrinks?
The contrast between the way that the Orthodox community in general treats men with the way it treats women has never been stronger. Time and again, we see that men are “innocent until proven guilty.” It might be more accurate to say “innocent even when proven guilty.”
Yet for women, it is almost the opposite: women are “presumed guilty until proven innocent.” Even the wish to dance with a Torah scroll on Simchat Torah is considered subversive unless it can be “proven” to come from a pure, spiritual place.
Once we stood at Sinai together, men and women, “like one person with one heart.” Today, the heart of Orthodoxy is broken, splintered into a dangerous and gaping divide.
Orthodox women are proud of their status of having their prayers answered by sitting next to the graveside and not even having to go too close. Unlike bitter women who think they'd be happier if they were like men.
ReplyDeleteSuch garbage. It has nothing to do with women's rights. We silence and outcast anyone who threaten our control of the public. And woman just happen to be more nurturing by nature and are usually less tolerant when we manipulate people.
ReplyDeleteWomen who are shrewd and manipulative are very powerful with us and work behind the scenes to expose the ones who oppose our power. Shoshanna Jakol has no clue.
The author is wrong.
ReplyDeleteThere is a real reason women should not be touching a grave of a righteous person. There are times of impurity...etc. While most learned women know of this, most do not. They simply weren't taught.
Stop seeing everything in binary.
Woman have different obligations then men. And were created for different rolls.
ReplyDeleteRebbetsin could you please tell me why there were no woman general in history,even in today's modern so called enlightened world?
If you know the answer you understand what woman were created for.
Look at today's most powerful and smartest women, Madam Hillary, she won the debates with the Donald and is more knowledgeable then him and most men,yet she communicated on a unsecured server which was hacked by foriegn powers.
She did it for years.
Why how could it be.shes is after all the smartest women on the planet.
The answer is what chazal teach us נשים דעתן קלות
In plain English they don't have what it takes to lead their own lives never mind the country.
Woman were created to bring joy in this world through having kids and cooking good supers for their husbands.
As long each of us are happy with our rolls and are trusting in our creator and designer we will all succeed.
Not only are we happy with our rolls we are happy with out bread too.
DeleteTo: chusid101
ReplyDeleteWell... Golda Meir and Margaret Thatcher (among other powerful women) proove that you are completely wrong.
And that Hillary is nothing else than a despicable mafia gangster who made sure to climb high enough, dressed up in a Democrat suit, to avoid prison.
I'm a man, btw.
Golda Meir presided over the Yom Kippur war...
DeleteAs of the iron lady, she was an exception not the rule. But you still can't find a woman general in all of history.
To Anonymous 5:45 PM
ReplyDeleteDo you really believe that ALL men are pure ALL the time ?
(Btw, Nida restrictions apply only to husbands and eventually to sifrei tora. Nida restrictions don't apply to graves or tshulent pots or falafel shops.)
And tell me... what about the holy kevorim of 99% of the tsadikim: do they also have this sick separation wall ? No.